Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Tuesday, February 02, 2010
I should say now that I'm not writing this for sympathy. Our family is secure, stable and mostly happy. I just found a remarkable statistic that perhaps justifies a little loneliness, perhaps even a little selfishness with my time and it always helps me to see the field when I write, talk and get my thoughts out of my head.
As I see it, most humans take roughly 112 waking hours in a week. I spend roughly 21 [hours] with my wife, more or less depending on how her illness is treating her. A single bread winner family with a 9 - 5 job spends closer to 72 daylight hours with their spouse or roughly 64% of the week - or at least the potential to.
You see, even though the numbers make feel less guilty about a feeling of loneliness, they still don't earn me any sympathy. I'm lucky to sacrifice almost no time with my daughter, that goes for my wife as well. I know some families struggle to find time with their children while trying to support their family. Others struggle to find work at all. I guess i'm just hoping you too will have one of those "whoa" moments and realize what value your family time has and cherish it for as long as you have it because something tells me that even if I had all the time in the world with my wonderful wife and beautiful daughter - it still wouldn't feel like enough.